Here are a few words on when to speak and when to be silent.


Three Golden Gates.

Some very old but sound advice comes down to us from the ancient Orient.  It suggests that the small part of the body - the tongue - this is no more than 3 inches long, can destroy a man six feet tall.


It, therefore, suggests that before we allow anything gossipy or evil to pass our lips, that we put it to the test, and that it must be made to pass through three golden gates.  Each gate has an inscription over it in the form of a question.


Gate No.1.  Is it true.

Gate No.2.  Is it necessary.

Gate No.3.  Is it kind.


Before we speak, our words should pass the test of all three gates, not just one. Some things we say are true but not necessary; some are true but not kind; some are necessary but not true or kind;  and some are kind but not true.



Alexander Pope said:  Be silent always when you doubt your sense.



Calvin Coolidge was not known for extended conversation.  In fact, his limited rhetoric earned him the nickname "Silent Cal".


One evening at a dinner party, a lady said to him, "Mr. President, I bet my husband five dollars that I could get you to say 3 words to me this evening.


The President turned to her and, with a twinkle in his eye, said "you lose"!!



Two psychiatrists passed each other on the street, and one said;  "nice to see you".


The second doctor walked on a few steps, then stopped and reflected;  "I wonder what he could have meant by that"!!!!!!!!!